Is it possible to love more than one person?

The relationship "lifestyle" of Polyamory, is where couples have more than one partner and allow emotional bonds to develop, it uses the logic that you are perfectly able to Love more than one person. It is not a simple arrangement and requires work to get it right, but there are many people living perfectly happy Polyamorous relationships.

Polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. Polyamory is focused on loving relationships, with the emphasis on connection and relationship building. Swinging is more about recreational sex. Swinging often involves a couple going together to a swing club or swing party to hook up with others strictly for sex.

Let's assume that by bieng on this site, you already have an open mind and ´"question" things about your relationship. To understand Polyamory, you need to try and "switch off" the things you have been taught and try to understand life from a different perspective.

Do you feel trapped by the idea of monogamy? Many people do and in fact, that is why many people take the route of affairs, trying to satisfy their desires of sex, love and feeling wanted. Affairs however take the "dark" side, in that they are deceiving, often to both partners,when you get "found out", then it is often the end of one, or both relationships.

The main rule in Polyamory is that ALL parties know the truth and nobody is ever deceived. Polyamory couples both alow their partners to see and develop relationships with other people. To consider Polyamory, you need to have a strong, trusting relationship to start with, or you will be doomed to cetain failure,

If you "only have eyes" for one person then you are less likely to be a threat to that person.  Realistically, it is common to feel attracted to many people and to have the desire to be intimate with more than one person.  How you handle this reality is up to you.  In the realm of monogamy it is commonplace to keep truth hidden so as to not threaten your lover.

Of course, monogamy is generally not only seen as normal but "good" and "respectable."  What is disturbing about this assumption of monogamy is that most people seem to give away their right to make choices about their sexuality to their partner, and would be open to varied intimacy if they only had permission.

If you are in a Monogomous relationship and like to think that your partner would never like to be with anyone else, even on a "part time basis" then you are probably deceiving yourself. Or it is simply because you do not know them as well as you think you do.

The trouble with Monogamy is that it creates an "illusion" where we never fully get to know and appreciate our partners. Even in very close intimate relationships, the things in your partners mind that "break the rules" of monogomy will rarely get mentioned. For many people who practice monogamy, even the mention from a partner, that he/she would like to see others, can break the trust and create undesirable reactions.

In polyamory both partners learn to be fully open about all their desires, feelings and emotions, in return, this creates a far deeper, more intimate relationship. Trust and understanding of each other is elevated to such a level that a secondary partner becomes much less of a threat.

Many people tend to think that a person who has multiple loveers cannot give their "whole heart" to any person. The belief goes that if you love one person, you can express your love wholeheartedly, but if you love multiple people, your love is divided up and is therefore not as deep. This is based on the theory that you only have a limited amount of love and if you give all your love to one person, there is nothing left to give to anyone else. So if you was to fall in love with another person, you have to "pay" for it by withdrawing some of your love from the first person.

But the truth is, love does behave in wonderful and unpredictable and counterintuitive ways. When you start to love more than one person, you soon realize that the more love you give away, the more love you have to give. Yes, you CAN give your whole heart to more than one person, and when you do, you may start to realize it's amongst the most beautiful feelings in all of the world.

Liberated Adult

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