The Truth about what "goes on" at swingers parties.
You have all heard about swingers parties and many of you probably have no idea what actually goes on at one, or who attends them. There are a lot of ignorant ideas about swingers parties and pleanty of crazy myths, have you heard about the fruit bowl ???
Have a look at some of the crazy myths people have about swingers parties.
1. At a swingers party, you place your keys in a fruit bowl and then take it in turn to pick up a set of keys, with the couple to whom they belong, you have sex (swap) with! ... SUCH RUBBISH !
You only "play" with a couple or single at a swingers party if you like them, there would never be a random choice made in this way. You would also never be pressured into sex or having sex with someone you did not "fancy". You could attend a swingers party to just enjoy the social side of things, without ever having sex.
2. A swingers party is like a Mass orgy and is just for sex.. Wrong again!
Swingers parties are like any regular party, with a social atmosphere, sometimes a disco, a buffet, drinks and a social setting. There are people who choose to have some "fun" on the premesis, but at all genuine swingers parties there are specific areas set aside for those who want to "play". Social areas are kept for socialising and sperate from the "play areas".
Yes indeed, at a busy swingers party there will be a lot of sex going on and you are able to join in or use the facilities with people you like, if you want to. However, never expect you can join in without first asking and if you are propositioned, then remember NO-MEANS-NO and at all geuine swingers parties people respect that.
3. A swingers party is for perverts, or lower class people.
Oh my god! If you think that is the case then you need to at least visit a party once, you will be shocked at who really attends these parties. You get regular happily married couples from all walks of life, to many the social aspect is as important as any sexual adventure. Remove all images of "weird people", they are simply not real, when you attend a swingers party you will find people just like yourselves.
There are also many "high class" swingers clubs that are frequented by the more "affluent", wealthy couples. Even your bank manager and his wife could be swingers!
So, what to expect at a swingers party.
At a genuine swingers party, on arrival you will be lead into a social area, where you can enjoy a few drinks and meet couples and singles that have attended. You may get shown around the "play areas" so that you could sneak off there later, if it took your fancy. You will find the social area full of other couple of all ages and a few singles, everyone is there hoping to meet someone for sex, but, you will never be expected to do that, unless you meet someone you like.
You may even choose to just have sex with your own partner, that can be exciting too, in a new, open, sexy environment. You must also remember, many swingers have certain "levels" that they will not pass, for example, some choose soft swinging, which can be anything from only kissing and flirting, to allowing touching or oral sex only. Not everyone consents to fully open swinging and intercourse.
The play areas are often open and allow people to watch if they enjoy doing so, although some swingers parties also have private rooms too. It' about having fun and relaxing with your sexuality, it is almost always a no pressure environment.
If you are considering swinging, then a swingers party is a great way to meet and chat with "like-minded" people, without any expectations of having sex, but with the option of taking it further, if meet the right people. Seeing first hand how others tackle swinging and learning what really "goes on" is your first step to understanding this lifestyle.
