Having Casual sex may be good for you!
Are you considering having casual sex? One-night stands and casual (fuck buddies), many believe, have the potential of possessing a feel good factor. Be it a sexual encounter with a stranger or just a wild act of passion to kill boredom, casual sex induces a natural high in people, often making them forget the drudgery of their lives. Sex is also know to be a natural ani-depressant, the hormone and adrenaline rush creates relaxing chemicals in the brain and reduces stressful feelings.
However, participating in casual sex has, somewhat of, a social "stigma" attached to it, plus, of course, the very real fear of contracting an sexually transmitted infection.Unprotected sex with anybody, who is not a long term partner is indeed risky and not advised.
Those who have a partner can of course reap the health and mental benefits of sex with thier partner, although it has beed suggeted that an occasional "casual encounter" can be good for a relationship too, but that's another topic!
If you don't have a partner however, then you are left with two choices, wait untill mr/mrs right comes along, (hoping it's not to long), or opt for some casual encounter, to fill in the "gaps". We are all wired to want and need sex, it's one of lifes fundimentals, like eating food and it's drive is controled by the power of nature, very few can escape it.
Sexual frustration is not good and can lead to depression and feelings of low esteem, of course, you can masturbate, that offer some relief, but nature never intended it that way. No matter how much you masterbate, you still feel the need for someone else to be with. Ever noticed how it feels so much nicer when someone else does it for you !
Casual sex is over rated, as such a "Taboo"...if your having a good time with someone, regardless if whether it is a first encounter or more... sex is all part of it. The teasing, the flirting, the sexual acts, the orgasms. Even in a steady relationship they are the parts we all "trip on"...so why not enjoy the trip, even if you don't get the other parts ??
Even some Doctors have claimed that a session in bed with an "unknown face "can actually spice up your personal life. Although none would advise it, but the fact remains that it jolts you back out of your boredom and pushes you to being innovative.
I have personally had many casual partners, in fact I am in a fully Open relationship, however the people I have slept with have all been single. I have found, that although these people were single for a considerable length of time, (which is probably why they agreed to something more casual in the first place), after a short time they "came out of themselves" and started dating and pretty soon ended up in that "proper relationship" they desired.
This is not great from my perspective, as the "casual flings" never lasted to long, but having sex with these people, kind of, woke them up. Made them feel sexy, confident and more alive, when you feel like that, you are far more attractive and so they quickly progressed to getting what they were looking for all along!
It seems to me, that, in the "pursuit" of looking for that long term partner, we neglect oursleves and "switch off" a little, we no longer have that "twinkle in the eye". A casual encounter, or a "fuck buddy" can awaken that part of you and motivate you! As a note, I have stayed in contact with and still talk to ALL my casual partners and they are all now happy in more "traditional" relationships.
Even within a relationship housewives and husbands, bored by their routine, often look for and have affairs outside their marriage. In fact, a one-night-stand often reignites the lost spark that may have gotten "snuffed out" due to a long marriage and monotony. Although, in this case, discovery of an affair and the break of trust can often lead to a break up too. Maybe allowing your partner to have an occasional "fling", with your consent, could keep your marriage strong and interesting.
(Liberated Adult)
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